Bangkok is Thailand's capital and, for most of the foreigners in these stories, the first city they set foot in. It's chaotic, sprawling, and full of contrasts: skyscrapers next to night markets, temples next to bars. Many of the relationships documented here begin in that mix, between business trips that ran longer than planned and tourists who came for a few days and ended up sorting out a visa for the long term. It's also, unfortunately, the setting for more than one scam in Thailand, so these pages include both genuine love stories and necessary warnings.
Felix, a 41-year-old German, discovers that legally recognising his son born in Bangkok, since he and the mother, Ploy, weren't married, requires a DNA test demanded by the German embassy before citizenship and a passport can be processed.
Marcus, a 41-year-old German, gets frustrated when his Thai partner Fern responds with a calm 'mai pen rai' after his motorbike gets stolen. It takes him a year to understand the phrase doesn't mean indifference, just a different way of carrying a problem.
At 44, divorced for a decade, an American meets Tay on Facebook. A month later, already in love, he finds out she'd spent the past year with an Australian man who'd visited her village in Isan. She confesses everything honestly and asks for one chance. Years later, they're married and building a house to retire in.
A 31-year-old Australian meets Noi when she offers to help him find his hotel in Asok, Bangkok. Twelve days of perfect attention later, on their last day together, she tells him she loves him just as her ID card reveals a name and age completely different from what she'd given him from the start.
A 52-year-old Canadian, after mistaking lust for love on a trip to Vietnam, goes back to Tinder looking for something real and meets a Thai woman of Chinese descent 24 years younger than him. Three weeks together across Bangkok, Pattaya and Koh Samui become the start of a long-distance relationship that, bumps and all, is still going strong toward a proposal.
A 26-year-old Australian engineer, freshly arrived in Asia for a hydro power job, downloads a dating app his first night in Vientiane and racks up a hundred matches in hours. A Thai woman crosses the border from Nong Khai to meet him. Days later, a Facebook search reveals she's married to a wealthy European man and has three kids.
A British engineer married Knock, a woman from a respectable Bangkok family, and for eleven years she was the perfect wife. Once they moved to the UK on a spouse visa that cost two years and a fortune, everything changed: total control of the money, a women's shelter, a custody battle, and an ending he never saw coming.
Divorced and burned out from work, a 42-year-old Lebanese man booked two weeks to Thailand with no real plan. On his last night in Phuket, food poisoning left him vomiting on the pavement outside his hotel at one in the morning. A stranger who worked at a nearby spa sat with him until sunrise and refused to accept a single baht in return.
At 57, living in the quiet peace of a marriage that survived my wife's third affair, I met Pre at a bar in Nana Plaza, Bangkok. She was 37, looked 25, and had a perfectly verifiable story: passport, divorce papers, years of social media photos. Over six months I sent her 30,000 dollars for her family, her studies, and a Denmark visa that never came through.
An Austrian met a woman from Thai Friendly in Bangkok: an expensive dinner, a shady venue, another bottle of wine, and a 12,500 baht bill topped off with a guilt trip about losing face. The final scene outside his hotel made everything clear.