Bangkok is Thailand's capital and, for most of the foreigners in these stories, the first city they set foot in. It's chaotic, sprawling, and full of contrasts: skyscrapers next to night markets, temples next to bars. Many of the relationships documented here begin in that mix, between business trips that ran longer than planned and tourists who came for a few days and ended up sorting out a visa for the long term. It's also, unfortunately, the setting for more than one scam in Thailand, so these pages include both genuine love stories and necessary warnings.
A Norwegian who's been travelling to Thailand since 1986 met Som, a Bangkok professional, on a dating app. One evening of drinks on Soi Cowboy was enough to trigger twenty missed calls, a bag packed in minutes, and months later, harassment reaching his own daughter.
A 54-year-old South African met Noi, 32, near Khao San Road in 2019. She never asked him for money despite her troubles, and the Koh Chang trip was perfect. But one night of drinks in Pattaya without her changed everything, and the pandemic finished it off.
A 50-year-old Brit, freshly divorced, met Nitia, a maths teacher in Khon Kaen who'd spent years keeping men at arm's length. Years of FaceTime, visits dodging COVID, and a first daughter later, the wedding is no longer a possibility but a foregone conclusion.
A 56-year-old American recalls his first night in Bangkok in 2013, when a woman named Tuk made room for him beside her at a bar on Soi 4. A brief romance that faded on its own, but whose memory has never stopped following him.
A 31-year-old Romanian recounts how a cheap flight booked on a whim sent him back to Bangkok alone, where he reconnected with Jit at a Soi Cowboy bar. A pregnancy, months of paperwork and a wedding later, they're now a normal family in the UK.
A 51-year-old Canadian recounts how he went from a tense relationship in Pattaya to supporting Lek for two years as she built a food stall in her village near Prakhon Chai, until she vanished without explanation after a temple retreat.
A 54-year-old American recounts how a two-week trip to Thailand stretched on indefinitely: first dodging a woman with escalating financial demands, then building a life in Bangkok alongside Gop and her daughter, who ended up calling him Papa.
A Mancunian recounts how five years with a Thai woman who claimed to own a hotel in Chiang Mai ended with over £30,000 lost on land, a house and a pickup truck, and a suitcase packed within seconds the night he said no.
A recently retired American looks back on his relationship with a Thai woman he met in Hong Kong. What began as a romance with visits to Bangkok turned into a growing list of monthly payments, until he discovered he wasn't the only man supporting her.
A 46-year-old Dane met Bun, a 26-year-old Thai translator, and they talked daily for seven months before meeting in person. They spent a month together between Bangkok and Pattaya with no red flags at all. Weeks after he got home, she vanished, and pre-wedding photos on Facebook were the last clue.